RESPITE is a weekend for married couples to spend unhurried time with other couples who understand the devastation of losing a child, to learn from each other, encourage each other, and experience together renewed hope for the future.

Respite is for couples with strong marriages, and for those whose marriages are struggling under the load of grief. It’s for those whose faith has grown through this loss, and for those who have lingering questions. It’s for those who want to talk about their experience and their child, and for those who are tired of talking. It’s for couples whose loss is fresh, and for those who’ve been walking down this road for a while.

Download this flyer to learn more and to share with your spouse or with a friend who might be interested in Respite (pdf download).

Download this flyer to learn more and to share with your spouse or with a friend who might be interested in Respite (pdf download).


What do you do at the retreat?

We share our stories with each other and pray for each other. We go for a walk in the woods, and sit in rockers on the porch sipping coffee. Over the weekend, we talk about:

  • grieving together in a way that strengthens our marriages
  • helping our other children through grief when we’re grieving ourselves
  • dealing with fractured friendships and family relationships
  • allowing grief to release its grip on us
  • finding meaning and purpose in our loss, and joy in spite of our loss
  • coming to terms with lingering questions about God’s role in our loss

The weekend is not a conference or workshop. It's a retreat, a mixture of large-group conversation led by David and Nancy, lingering over meals together, and opening up God's Word together in search of perspective and hope.

Who Comes to Respite Retreat?

Over the six years so far that we've been hosting three to four retreats per year, we've had couples come from all over the country, and from outside the US and Canada. We've had couples who lost a child only a month prior to attending, as well as couples whose loss was fifteen years prior, and everywhere in between. Our goal is to help you move forward toward healing from wherever you are. There is usually a wide range of ages represented in the children who have died, from infants born still to young adults in their twenties or thirties, as well as a wide range of causes of death.

Where is it held?

Respite Retreats are held at the Hiding Place, a beautiful 12-bedroom lodge owned by a Christian ministry. It sits on a bluff overlooking the Cumberland River about 30 minutes northwest of Nashville in Henrietta, Tennessee. Surrounded by 75 acres of wooded property, it is serene, private, and comfortable. Each couple has a private room with a private bath and either a queen bed or two single beds.

How much does it cost?

The cost is $550 per couple which includes lodging for Friday and Saturday nights at The Hiding Place as well as meals and snacks from Friday night dinner through Sunday breakfast.

How do we register?

Registration for each retreat is limited to the first 11 couples who submit a $100 non-refundable deposit along with a completed registration application and the requested photographs. If you would like to request an application, contact us.

When is the next retreat with openings?

Registration is open for May 26-28, 2017, June 2-4, 2017, and September 1-3, 2017. Please contact us if you are interested in receiving a registration application. Each retreat is limited to the first eleven couples who apply.


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Couples have come from all over the world to attend Respite Retreat.